I can understand and appreciate this sudden loss having experienced a miscarriage over 20 years ago. Upon discovering that you are pregnant the delight, excitement then the devastation of all your hopes and dreams being taken away through no fault of your own is incredibly difficult.
At my scan around 18 weeks I was suddenly told that there was something there but it was not a baby. A second opinion was called for and it was agreed there was no baby. I was shocked but not surprised I had bled at 8 and 12 weeks had seen my GP on both occasions and was told that this was normal for some women – although it didn’t seem right to me (a scan was not suggested at the time). I also had not noticed any great changes in my body during the 18 weeks, no morning sickness, tender breasts but for only a short time and no weight gain.
So here I was not pregnant even although when tested my results were still showing positive. So for the next 2 weeks my husband and I attended constant hospital appointments to find out what was going on, there was talk of stomach cancer and a molar pregnancy. During this incredibly difficult time I felt that my body had let me down, at the same time friends and just about everyone around me who didn’t want babies, who were not ready seemed to be falling pregnant and that was really tough trying to be pleased for them but feeling so hurt, empty and lost inside.
Finally we saw a Doctor in London who was able to confirm that I had experienced a missed abortion (missed miscarriage), to be honest at this stage I just felt relief and was glad that it was nothing else. I was then booked in to have a D&C (dilation and curettage) procedure, and although I quickly recovered physically it took longer for my emotions to catch up. This is the time when I wished I had know about reflexology which helps to balance you both emotionally and physically, and provides much needed relaxation time and time for yourself.
I felt very much that what happened to me was mean’t to be and I was incredibly fortunate to discovered I was pregnant with my first son three months later and went on to have 2 further children without any further miscarriages.