My Miscarriage

I can understand and appreciate the sudden loss of a miscarriage. Having experienced this in 1988.

Upon discovering I was pregnant we were delighted and excited.

At my scan around 18 weeks, I was told that there was a mass but it was not a baby.

A second opinion was called for and it was agreed there was no baby.

I was shocked but not surprised.

I had bled at 8 and 12 weeks, and had seen my GP on both occasions. Being told that this was normal for some women.  Personally, for me  it didn’t feel right.

At the time earlier scans were not available.

My body had not experienced any great changes  during the 18 weeks. No morning sickness, tender breasts but for only a very short time and no weight gain.

So there I was not pregnant. Even although when pregnancy tested my body was producing a positive result.

For the next 2 weeks my husband and I attended constant hospital appointments to find out what was going on. There was talk of stomach cancer and a molar pregnancy.

During this incredibly difficult time I felt that my body had let me down.

Friends and just about everyone  around me, were falling pregnant around me. That remember that was really tough. Trying to be pleased for them but feeling so sad, empty and lost inside.

Finally, we saw a Doctor in London. He confirmed I had experienced  a missed miscarriage (they referred to it then as a missed abortion). To be honest at the time I just felt relieved.

I was booked in to have a D&C (dilation and curettage) procedure.  I recovered quickly physically. But it did take longer for my emotional health to recover.

I felt very much that my pregnancy was not mean’t to be.  I  incredibly fortunate to discovered I was expecting my first son three months later.

I was then lucky enough to conceive two further children.


The Miscarriage Association


  1. Joanna on October 14, 2013 at 9:25 am

    thank you for sharing this Karen. It’s such a difficult subject, and so unspoken. I think we don’t realise just how many people go through this difficult experience.

  2. karen on October 14, 2013 at 2:13 pm

    Absolutely Joanna, unfortunately it is very common but difficult emotionally to come to terms with. Especially when family members and friends around you are falling pregnant.

  3. Louise hartley on October 14, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    Well done for sharing your own personal situation, this is why you have such empathy for others in this situation. I am impressed that reflexology helps with the emotional aspects of miscarriage and wish it had been around to help me 24 years ago with post natal depression and anxiety which as you know I endured following 2 healthy pregnancies . Its great to see natural and holistic solutions rather than the medical model .

  4. karen on October 15, 2013 at 8:12 am

    Thank you Louise, reflexology is great at helping to calm the nervous system particularly at times of great stress and anxiety.

Leave a Comment